Just came back from my hair stylist and I felt so many (bad) emotions I didn’t know which one had the highest priority!
When she was done, I thought: oh crap! This doesn’t look like the picture I showed her… AT ALL!!! What do I do now? Nothing of course. Can’t pick up the locks of hair and glue them back…
She could see that I wasn’t so happy and ask why. Well duh!! Cause you cut my hair way too short? I’ve been growing it out for months and now it’s gone… I did tell her that it was now much shorter than in the picture and her reply? Your hair is thick and wavy, I had to take the weight out. No, no!! I asked specifically not to cut too much, and when l saw 3-4 inch pieces falling down I kept telling myself that she knew what she was doing. Afterall, I showed her what I wanted…
But looking in the mirror, I had to admit my defeat. She was great at doing short cuts like the bob or other styles, but (mid)long hair was just not her thing. She kept cutting and layering like there was no end to it and now my ‘long’ hair is gone! The strange thing was, even though I was not happy with what she did, the cut looked cute. Just not what I had wanted!
When I got home my hubby asked if I was happy with the cut and ofcourse I was not, cause I couldn’t hide it. He said he liked it (sweet guy that he is), but that’s because he likes shorter cuts any way. I told him that my stylist messed up, showed him the picture and even he had to admit that it was a bit shorter. The more I talked about it the more emotional I got, so I went upstairs.
I was mad that she hadn’t listened to my instructions; then I got mad at myself cause it happened one time before and why did I go back? After that one time, I didn’t go for months, even tried out another stylist, but thought I gave her another chance because she did a good cut for my thick hair. Kept telling her, don’t go too short and she was doing good until tonight. I thought it was so stupid that she didn’t do what I asked. Even if her English was bad (she’s Korean) I showed her a picture, so why did she still do what the hell she wanted instead of what the client asked for? If she couldn’t do it, she should have said so and I would have been okay with that, chosen something else. Well, no wonder she works alone and her salon is often empty … All of this went through my head, building up the anger and disappointment, until I couldn’t handle it anymore and started crying (in the shower). Well, Lord!! Who knew that a bad haircut could have such an effect? No wonder men don’t understand women! Hahaha!
Maybe I just needed to cry cause it had been a while, maybe it was hormones, maybe I was tired, whatever, it felt like such a loss. After 5 minutes I kicked myself mentally in the butt and saying that it was my own fault, yes, she was stupid for not listening to her client, but I was the one who went back and gave her a 2nd chance, even gave her a tip though I wasn’t 100% happy, so quit crying, quit feeling angry or disappointed and MOVE ON! The longer hair was gone, can’t put it back so deal with it.
Yes, it will grow back, so don’t get another cut for the next couple of months, and DO NOT go back to that woman! No matter how convenient it was: no appointment necessary, salon on my way home after work, normally good cuts and reasonable prices. I think I’ve learned my lesson now, but it is with regret that I’m letting this stylist go. I’ve been going to her salon for at least 6 years and besides the conveniences listed before, she really knew how to cut thick hair like mine (as long as I went for shorter cuts), cause my hair would look great without too much fuss. The style lasted 6-8 weeks some times and I was mostly satisfied with her work. But if I would go back after she messed up the 2nd time, I’d feel even more stupid than I do right now. Why torture myself? I’m done. Not talking about it anymore. She is fired.
Before I wrote this … rant…, I thought I’d look up what other people do in such situations and was surprised to find that someone cared enough to put out some great tips on this link for Coping with a bad haircut! I also found some other ideas like: wear a hat, pin it up, ponytail it, etc. So, until it’s time for another cut, I think I’ll be doing just that!
Oh darned, I also have to go find another stylist 🙁
